Venting

Jul 22, 2017 14:47:24 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

You're not a whiny brat! Same thing happened to my daughter when she had my grand baby two years ago.
my daughter's problem with friends resolved it's self because she moved to another state and she met people at her job. 
Do you have any friends or even someone you went to school with that has had a baby recently? You could maybe start  talking to them and then bring up going to lunch or something? You might make a new friend. Im probably bad at giving advice like this since I'm 43. I had my oldest 3 months before I turned 18, and I had my youngest when I was 21. 

Jul 25, 2017 12:49:57 GMT 10 kiki said:

I'm going to apologise in advance if this is a sensitive topic for anyone and for whinging in general lol, but I need to get this off my chest..
A couple of months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were super excited and happy about it but unfortunately, one day I started to bleed. I had an ultrasound the following day and they confirmed that I had had a miscarriage. We were upset, but accepted that it just wasn't meant to be and said we will try again in a few months.
So it's been a couple of months and we decided we would try again. A couple of days before the due date of my period, I decided to take a pregnancy test, because I just couldn't handle not knowing. The test was negative, so I was like ok, that's fine, at least I know. Due date for period comes and goes and still nothing. Four days late, I took another test. Still negative. I am now 7 days late and still nothing. Not even any signs of my period. No cramps, no breast tenderness. Nothing. I am usually always on time, and my periods have been normal since my miscarriage so I don't know what's going on. It is just so frustrating and my husband doesn't get why I'm frustrated. He just keeps saying that it'll happen eventually and that there is no point being upset.
Ughhhhh. I don't know guys. It's just playing on my mind.

is it possible you ovulated late? That's how I got pregnant. I wasn't hardcore charting but I thought I ovulated 2 weeks before (when I normally did) so when I took a test when I expected my period, it was negative. 2 weeks later, positive.

I was really stressed that month and threw it off.

Also this happened to my SIL a few months ago and turns out it was because she normally takes a certain medicine and had forgotten it. But it could be any little thing off in your routine.

Jul 25, 2017 13:14:09 GMT 10 beckigreen101 said:

Jul 22, 2017 14:47:24 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

You're not a whiny brat! Same thing happened to my daughter when she had my grand baby two years ago.
my daughter's problem with friends resolved it's self because she moved to another state and she met people at her job. 
Do you have any friends or even someone you went to school with that has had a baby recently? You could maybe start  talking to them and then bring up going to lunch or something? You might make a new friend. Im probably bad at giving advice like this since I'm 43. I had my oldest 3 months before I turned 18, and I had my youngest when I was 21. 

thank you so much.

I'm literally the first out of most people I know to have a baby. My cousin who I'm pretty close with has a 2 year old but she works so much. I see her when I can. My husband and I are trying to find parent and mom groups in our area now. We're thinking that's the way to start.

Jul 25, 2017 13:24:49 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

Jul 25, 2017 13:14:09 GMT 10 beckigreen101 said:

You're not a whiny brat! Same thing happened to my daughter when she had my grand baby two years ago.
my daughter's problem with friends resolved it's self because she moved to another state and she met people at her job. 
Do you have any friends or even someone you went to school with that has had a baby recently? You could maybe start  talking to them and then bring up going to lunch or something? You might make a new friend. Im probably bad at giving advice like this since I'm 43. I had my oldest 3 months before I turned 18, and I had my youngest when I was 21. 

thank you so much.

I'm literally the first out of most people I know to have a baby. My cousin who I'm pretty close with has a 2 year old but she works so much. I see her when I can. My husband and I are trying to find parent and mom groups in our area now. We're thinking that's the way to start.

I've seen those groups on Facebook, I couldn't remember what they're called though. Since I'm a smart ass, I would probably update my status on Facebook to read something like, "just because I've had a baby doesn't mean I don't like to have fun". My oldest will be 26 in September. My oldest is a smart ass like me and would totally update her status to say that, my youngest, who is coincidentally named Colleen, would not to do that, and would be mortified. My Colleen didn't inherit my smart ass gene.

Jul 25, 2017 13:06:35 GMT 10 beckigreen101 said:

Jul 25, 2017 12:49:57 GMT 10 kiki said:

I'm going to apologise in advance if this is a sensitive topic for anyone and for whinging in general lol, but I need to get this off my chest..
A couple of months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were super excited and happy about it but unfortunately, one day I started to bleed. I had an ultrasound the following day and they confirmed that I had had a miscarriage. We were upset, but accepted that it just wasn't meant to be and said we will try again in a few months.
So it's been a couple of months and we decided we would try again. A couple of days before the due date of my period, I decided to take a pregnancy test, because I just couldn't handle not knowing. The test was negative, so I was like ok, that's fine, at least I know. Due date for period comes and goes and still nothing. Four days late, I took another test. Still negative. I am now 7 days late and still nothing. Not even any signs of my period. No cramps, no breast tenderness. Nothing. I am usually always on time, and my periods have been normal since my miscarriage so I don't know what's going on. It is just so frustrating and my husband doesn't get why I'm frustrated. He just keeps saying that it'll happen eventually and that there is no point being upset.
Ughhhhh. I don't know guys. It's just playing on my mind.

I'm sorry this is happened to you. I was pregnant with twins and lost one. It happened in like my first or second month, and my other daughter was born just fine. As for you being late,but not getting a period, I would go to the Doctor tomorrow, or as soon as you can. Tell the doc what's going on and they can do blood work if another test turns out negative. Try to be patient with your husband, as men can be kinda dumb sometimes. I've been with mine since '89 and sometimes he does things and I'm dumbfounded.

Thanks lovely. I think I am going to give it a few more days and if still nothing, I will book an appointment. (mostly because I am absolutely flat out this week and have no time to get to the dr lol). As for my husband, I know he means well, and is trying to make me feel better, but he really doesn't get it lol. 

Jul 25, 2017 13:21:28 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

Jul 25, 2017 12:49:57 GMT 10 kiki said:

I'm going to apologise in advance if this is a sensitive topic for anyone and for whinging in general lol, but I need to get this off my chest..
A couple of months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were super excited and happy about it but unfortunately, one day I started to bleed. I had an ultrasound the following day and they confirmed that I had had a miscarriage. We were upset, but accepted that it just wasn't meant to be and said we will try again in a few months.
So it's been a couple of months and we decided we would try again. A couple of days before the due date of my period, I decided to take a pregnancy test, because I just couldn't handle not knowing. The test was negative, so I was like ok, that's fine, at least I know. Due date for period comes and goes and still nothing. Four days late, I took another test. Still negative. I am now 7 days late and still nothing. Not even any signs of my period. No cramps, no breast tenderness. Nothing. I am usually always on time, and my periods have been normal since my miscarriage so I don't know what's going on. It is just so frustrating and my husband doesn't get why I'm frustrated. He just keeps saying that it'll happen eventually and that there is no point being upset.
Ughhhhh. I don't know guys. It's just playing on my mind.

is it possible you ovulated late? That's how I got pregnant. I wasn't hardcore charting but I thought I ovulated 2 weeks before (when I normally did) so when I took a test when I expected my period, it was negative. 2 weeks later, positive.

I was really stressed that month and threw it off.

Also this happened to my SIL a few months ago and turns out it was because she normally takes a certain medicine and had forgotten it. But it could be any little thing off in your routine.

Hmm, not sure. I've just been tracking my period and like estimated ovulation and stuff. I haven't been doing ovulation tests or anything. 
I don't take medication for anything but I have been a bit stressed this month, so maybe it's throwing off my cycle or something? I spoke to my sister and she reckons it is either that stress is messing with my cycle, or I'm pregnant and it's too early for the HCG levels to be detected in the HPT. 

Jul 25, 2017 18:27:06 GMT 10 kiki said:

Jul 25, 2017 13:21:28 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

is it possible you ovulated late? That's how I got pregnant. I wasn't hardcore charting but I thought I ovulated 2 weeks before (when I normally did) so when I took a test when I expected my period, it was negative. 2 weeks later, positive.

I was really stressed that month and threw it off.

Also this happened to my SIL a few months ago and turns out it was because she normally takes a certain medicine and had forgotten it. But it could be any little thing off in your routine.

Hmm, not sure. I've just been tracking my period and like estimated ovulation and stuff. I haven't been doing ovulation tests or anything. 
I don't take medication for anything but I have been a bit stressed this month, so maybe it's throwing off my cycle or something? I spoke to my sister and she reckons it is either that stress is messing with my cycle, or I'm pregnant and it's too early for the HCG levels to be detected in the HPT. 

I was the same way. Just tracked my period on an app but the couple of months before I got pregnant I was ovulating like clockwork. Plus I could kinda tell based on body changes (was not testing for ovulation). We were t trying but not preventing sorta thing. Anyway, that month my dog died and my husband ended up in the hospital and I was just crazy stressed. Maybe all TMI but I'm just saying, it happens.

I hope for you your cycle was just thrown off a bit and you'll get the results you want 💖

ETA: I also know not everyone is the same and sometimes a positive doesn't show until a little later. Some women get early positives and some, it takes like 2 weeks after the missed period.

Jul 26, 2017 2:04:36 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

Jul 25, 2017 18:27:06 GMT 10 kiki said:

Hmm, not sure. I've just been tracking my period and like estimated ovulation and stuff. I haven't been doing ovulation tests or anything. 
I don't take medication for anything but I have been a bit stressed this month, so maybe it's throwing off my cycle or something? I spoke to my sister and she reckons it is either that stress is messing with my cycle, or I'm pregnant and it's too early for the HCG levels to be detected in the HPT. 

I was the same way. Just tracked my period on an app but the couple of months before I got pregnant I was ovulating like clockwork. Plus I could kinda tell based on body changes (was not testing for ovulation). We were t trying but not preventing sorta thing. Anyway, that month my dog died and my husband ended up in the hospital and I was just crazy stressed. Maybe all TMI but I'm just saying, it happens.

I hope for you your cycle was just thrown off a bit and you'll get the results you want 💖

ETA: I also know not everyone is the same and sometimes a positive doesn't show until a little later. Some women get early positives and some, it takes like 2 weeks after the missed period.

Thanks for this I am really hoping that I am pregnant and it's just too early to show on a test. Last time though, I knew I was pregnant before I even took the test. I FELT pregnant. Which sounds weird lol but I just knew. I currently don't feel like that at all, which makes me think I'm not.
Also, my brother called me last night and said that his partner is pregnant with their second child. I am really happy for them but it also stung a little!

I just wanna say that I'm absolutely disgusted in Trump banning transgender people from fighting for their country. My heart goes out to anyone who has been hit hard by this bullshit

This just crossed my mind but you know it just really annoys me when youtubers say stuff like "its my body I can do whatever I want with it and people really shouldn't sexualize it!" Yet they continue to/have made their thumbnails sexual and it's obvious they are trying to use their body for clicks. 
(Yes we all know one youtuber who does this sometimes...I'll give you a hint: it's colleen)

Jul 26, 2017 8:27:21 GMT 10 kiki said:

Jul 26, 2017 2:04:36 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

I was the same way. Just tracked my period on an app but the couple of months before I got pregnant I was ovulating like clockwork. Plus I could kinda tell based on body changes (was not testing for ovulation). We were t trying but not preventing sorta thing. Anyway, that month my dog died and my husband ended up in the hospital and I was just crazy stressed. Maybe all TMI but I'm just saying, it happens.

I hope for you your cycle was just thrown off a bit and you'll get the results you want 💖

ETA: I also know not everyone is the same and sometimes a positive doesn't show until a little later. Some women get early positives and some, it takes like 2 weeks after the missed period.

Thanks for this I am really hoping that I am pregnant and it's just too early to show on a test. Last time though, I knew I was pregnant before I even took the test. I FELT pregnant. Which sounds weird lol but I just knew. I currently don't feel like that at all, which makes me think I'm not.
Also, my brother called me last night and said that his partner is pregnant with their second child. I am really happy for them but it also stung a little!

Update.. 10 days late but Aunt Flo has arrived.. (Sorry guys, TMI? Haha)

Jul 28, 2017 21:16:17 GMT 10 kiki said:

Jul 26, 2017 8:27:21 GMT 10 kiki said:

Thanks for this I am really hoping that I am pregnant and it's just too early to show on a test. Last time though, I knew I was pregnant before I even took the test. I FELT pregnant. Which sounds weird lol but I just knew. I currently don't feel like that at all, which makes me think I'm not.
Also, my brother called me last night and said that his partner is pregnant with their second child. I am really happy for them but it also stung a little!

Update.. 10 days late but Aunt Flo has arrived.. (Sorry guys, TMI? Haha)

When I got pregnant with my daughter I had no idea. Except my nephew (on husband's side) was born and I was super jealous and emotional. I said I hope they don't want me to hold him, I don't want to put any shadow on their happiness but I thought I would burst into tears (not the happy kind). Found out shortly after that I was pregnant. Actually got pregnant within days either way of his birth. It took 7 months of charting and trying (tmi lol).

I was an older Mum, though, 36. 

Stay positive and I wish you all the best! 
Sorry that sounds really glib. I know it can be hard. Emotions everywhere. 

Jul 29, 2017 2:38:00 GMT 10 anastasia said:

Jul 28, 2017 21:16:17 GMT 10 kiki said:

Update.. 10 days late but Aunt Flo has arrived.. (Sorry guys, TMI? Haha)

When I got pregnant with my daughter I had no idea. Except my nephew (on husband's side) was born and I was super jealous and emotional. I said I hope they don't want me to hold him, I don't want to put any shadow on their happiness but I thought I would burst into tears (not the happy kind). Found out shortly after that I was pregnant. Actually got pregnant within days either way of his birth. It took 7 months of charting and trying (tmi lol).

I was an older Mum, though, 36. 

Stay positive and I wish you all the best! 
Sorry that sounds really glib. I know it can be hard. Emotions everywhere. 

Thank you for this. It is really hard. Especially when I see other people having babies and stuff.
My husband and I have always been big believers of "everything happens for a reason" so I just need to keep reminding myself that maybe right now is not the right time but it will happen when it's supposed to. 

Jul 29, 2017 7:25:19 GMT 10 kiki said:

Jul 29, 2017 2:38:00 GMT 10 anastasia said:

Stay positive and I wish you all the best! 
Sorry that sounds really glib. I know it can be hard. Emotions everywhere. 

Thank you for this. It is really hard. Especially when I see other people having babies and stuff.
My husband and I have always been big believers of "everything happens for a reason" so I just need to keep reminding myself that maybe right now is not the right time but it will happen when it's supposed to. 

I know we all feel like we're alone and that our feelings are not valid sometimes. 
I don't know what age range you are in, I was older so I was deafened by my biological clock! 😂 
It did take 7 months, and that was charting periods and ovulation, and putting in a lot of "work" lol.

Second child, I got pregnant on the second month. I think I just was not as stressed about it, since I already
had my daughter, I was relaxed. I would have been happy with one child.