Venting

Jul 12, 2017 10:39:15 GMT 10 @alice7477 said:

I'm so, so sorry baby.
A thousand pictures sounds like a lovely idea.
You'll be strong. You'll be okay.
I'd mail you Kleenex if I could.
And a hug in a box.

Lol awww thank you Alice! Here's a virtual hug! *hug!* 

Pictures is perfect.

I went crazy too and put them on every laptop,phone and tablet I could find.

I'm so sorry its turned out like this.

Jul 12, 2017 10:31:45 GMT 10 randomer said:

Thanks you guys! My gramma just told me a little bit ago that Cleo has a tumor and we could get the surgery to take it out HOWEVER if we do choose to take the cancer out now it'll come back with a vengeance...and we don't want her in pain and we cant fix her heart issues. So I guess the decision has been made. Not happy about it but it's the right thing to do and causes less pain down the road. At least she won't be in pain anymore. The appointment isn't until 4:00 pm on Thursday. I have all day tomorrow and most of Thursday. One word: PICTURES....And lots of them.  Much better than watching your dog suffer. I couldn't do that to the poor girl. At least she won't be in pain. 
Thank y'all for yalls kind words by the way! It's very sweet of you guys!

I'm so so sorry. To echo ack's sentiments, we had to put our dog down last year and it wrecked me. I cried everyday for 2 weeks straight. I swore I'd never get another dog but my husband convinced me we had so much love to give and we ended up getting our current dog. Don't rush anything but you'll know when you're ready and I'm sure your grandma will come around. Pictures are great! I'm so so sorry for your ache but you're doing the humane thing 💖💖

Jul 12, 2017 10:31:45 GMT 10 randomer said:

Thanks you guys! My gramma just told me a little bit ago that Cleo has a tumor and we could get the surgery to take it out HOWEVER if we do choose to take the cancer out now it'll come back with a vengeance...and we don't want her in pain and we cant fix her heart issues. So I guess the decision has been made. Not happy about it but it's the right thing to do and causes less pain down the road. At least she won't be in pain anymore. The appointment isn't until 4:00 pm on Thursday. I have all day tomorrow and most of Thursday. One word: PICTURES....And lots of them.  Much better than watching your dog suffer. I couldn't do that to the poor girl. At least she won't be in pain. 
Thank y'all for yalls kind words by the way! It's very sweet of you guys!

I'm so sorry girl:( we lost our old dog the same way and its never easy. If you have your doggo at the moment, maybe see if you can take her somewhere nice like a park or a beach so you can give her a proper goodbye. We're all here for you ♥️♥️

I'm so sorry that it's turned out this way randomer I can only imagine how hard that must be for you and your family. I hope you can at least enjoy the time you have left with your sweet dog. <3 Like Tusky said, we're all here for you if you need us *hugs*

Jul 12, 2017 7:31:13 GMT 10 randomer said:

Well I didn't know where else to put this so I am putting it out there...yes this is sad so if you don't want sad stuff DONT READ...I talked to my best friend And it helped but I still feel...weird. 
So my dog Cleo has had some heart issues and then around last year she hurt her leg and (we don't know how) and then she got arthritis. So she's on medicine and stuff because we just don't have the money for surgery for her..or the time. (it's just me and my gramma and my younger brother) She recently got this rash on the left side of her bum and it's scabs over and bleeds sometimes (gross I know) So we've been putting ointment on it and stuff and my gramma finally had enough She called the vet today and talked to her and the vet said it's possible that it is like a tumor or cancer.  So we've made an appointment to have the vet check her out on Thursday and it's possible she may not come back...I hope she turns out okay...I've literally grown up with her and my other dog...I know since they turned 7 in April they are older now but I don't know if I'm ready to let go yet...no one (not even animals) should have to live in pain...But I won't let her just suffer you know? if there is nothing we can do we gotta do what we gotta do..she is spoiled rotten and has had a good life so if she goes at least she will go happy. I am just kinda sad...I didn't really cry because it hasn't happened yet and who knows she may survive? I am just kinda scared and dont know what to do. I know people think "oh it's just a dog it isn't that bad" and I will still have my other dog but she's family! I have had her since I was 8 years old. It feels weird. I dunno what to do lol I am sorry for kinda rambling. Just had to get it out. 
Thanks for listening! Hug your pets! They are awesome!

Oh no, randomer! Im so sorry y'all are going through this. I really hope everything turns out ok.

Jul 12, 2017 10:31:45 GMT 10 randomer said:

Thanks you guys! My gramma just told me a little bit ago that Cleo has a tumor and we could get the surgery to take it out HOWEVER if we do choose to take the cancer out now it'll come back with a vengeance...and we don't want her in pain and we cant fix her heart issues. So I guess the decision has been made. Not happy about it but it's the right thing to do and causes less pain down the road. At least she won't be in pain anymore. The appointment isn't until 4:00 pm on Thursday. I have all day tomorrow and most of Thursday. One word: PICTURES....And lots of them.  Much better than watching your dog suffer. I couldn't do that to the poor girl. At least she won't be in pain. 
Thank y'all for yalls kind words by the way! It's very sweet of you guys!

So sorry, girl! I wrote the other post before I read this one. It's never an easy decision but you're right that it's better to not let them suffer.

Jul 12, 2017 10:31:45 GMT 10 randomer said:

Thanks you guys! My gramma just told me a little bit ago that Cleo has a tumor and we could get the surgery to take it out HOWEVER if we do choose to take the cancer out now it'll come back with a vengeance...and we don't want her in pain and we cant fix her heart issues. So I guess the decision has been made. Not happy about it but it's the right thing to do and causes less pain down the road. At least she won't be in pain anymore. The appointment isn't until 4:00 pm on Thursday. I have all day tomorrow and most of Thursday. One word: PICTURES....And lots of them.  Much better than watching your dog suffer. I couldn't do that to the poor girl. At least she won't be in pain. 
Thank y'all for yalls kind words by the way! It's very sweet of you guys!

I'm so sorry, lovely. What a terrible thing to have to go through my dog is 7 years old and I am terrified of her getting old and sick because she means the world to me. I had major depression and some nights, when things were so rough and I wanted to end my life, having her come up to me and lick me and snuggle up with me, as though she understood and wanted to comfort me, really pulled me through and helped me to live another day. They really do become family and the thought of losing them is heart wrenching. Take as many photos as you possibly can and just spend some time cuddling her. Like you said, she won't be in pain and suffering anymore. My thoughts are with you sweet ❤️ Xoxo 

Yeah my cousins came down a little bit ago to hang out with her for a bit and started taking photos of her and then my other dog jumped on the couch next to Cleo and layed down by her and I bursted out crying. One of them has a friend who recently lost a dog and she asked her for advice to give me and she told me to take photos, keep the collar, and remember the memories not the day. And I cried for like an hour like a little baby I literally just stopped like 20 minutes ago 😂. I just hate that my other dog is gonna be alone. That's the part I'm having trouble with. One day at a time tho! She's still here till Thursday and I'll take it.
ALSO my gramma told me it's just gonna be her and Cleo and she doesn't want me and my brother to go. Which I think is good becuase I don't wanna remember her like that. But at the same time I feel like I should be there....plus I don't want my gramma to be alone if that makes sense? I'm still not gonna go...but it still sucks just as bad.

I don't know if your vet will allow it but we took our other dog with us so she kind of knew what was going on. After he passed she sniffed him for a bit then licked his face and then wanted to leave the room, like she had said goodbye.
When the time comes again I'm not going to be in the same room I don't recommend it, at all, but other people might get some solace from it.
It's not easy Randomer and I think it's harder then losing a relative and nothing anyone will say will make you feel better but we are here if you want to talk about it and give you support.

So, I got to work this morning and my coworker just never showed up to work so that was...interesting lol.
But, on a happier note, I woke up to a follow from Josh on Twitter so that was nice (thanks bixie )

so... funny story- but also venting a little. Today I went to the grocery store and was purchasing a bottle of wine along with my groceries( per usual). I'm used to being carded for alcohol as I'm fortunate that I don't look Totally my age (thanks to a humid climate) but I don't think I look 13 years younger. (I'll be 34 tomorrow and the drinking age in the us is 21). When this cashier saw my id her eyes got all crazy and wide and she literally said "oh my god". And then said," I would have NEVER thought you were that old!!!"

Now, I understand this was most likely meant to be a compliment- but WTF? 😡 Last time I checked 34 does not make me a geriatric person!!!! I wanted to say something sassy but just awkwardly laughed, paid for my groceries and left.

Jul 13, 2017 12:53:30 GMT 10 AK713 said:

so... funny story- but also venting a little. Today I went to the grocery store and was purchasing a bottle of wine along with my groceries( per usual). I'm used to being carded for alcohol as I'm fortunate that I don't look Totally my age (thanks to a humid climate) but I don't think I look 13 years younger. (I'll be 34 tomorrow and the drinking age in the us is 21). When this cashier saw my id her eyes got all crazy and wide and she literally said "oh my god". And then said," I would have NEVER thought you were that old!!!"

Now, I understand this was most likely meant to be a compliment- but WTF? 😡 Last time I checked 34 does not make me a geriatric person!!!! I wanted to say something sassy but just awkwardly laughed, paid for my groceries and left.

Im sure she meant it as a compliment but I can see how it could also come across as her saying 34 is super old or something! Just be thankful you don't look 13 years older than what you actually are, like Colleen does 😉😝 haha. 
The other week I went to the liquor store and I always get asked for ID (I'm 25 and the drinking age here is 18) and I thought the lady was going to keep my ID or something!! She kept looking at it, then looking at me, then back at my ID, then back at me and then finally she says "so.. this is a New South Wales licence.." (I just moved states from NSW to Victoria)  I just replied back with "yep!" And she just kept staring at the ID and at me. I just said "ok, well can I have my ID back now?" And all she said was "hmmm..." and then slowly handed it back to me!! I think she thought it was fake or stolen or something. It was very odd lol. 

Jul 13, 2017 13:58:34 GMT 10 kiki said:

Jul 13, 2017 12:53:30 GMT 10 AK713 said:

so... funny story- but also venting a little. Today I went to the grocery store and was purchasing a bottle of wine along with my groceries( per usual). I'm used to being carded for alcohol as I'm fortunate that I don't look Totally my age (thanks to a humid climate) but I don't think I look 13 years younger. (I'll be 34 tomorrow and the drinking age in the us is 21). When this cashier saw my id her eyes got all crazy and wide and she literally said "oh my god". And then said," I would have NEVER thought you were that old!!!"

Now, I understand this was most likely meant to be a compliment- but WTF? 😡 Last time I checked 34 does not make me a geriatric person!!!! I wanted to say something sassy but just awkwardly laughed, paid for my groceries and left.

Im sure she meant it as a compliment but I can see how it could also come across as her saying 34 is super old or something! Just be thankful you don't look 13 years older than what you actually are, like Colleen does 😉😝 haha. 
The other week I went to the liquor store and I always get asked for ID (I'm 25 and the drinking age here is 18) and I thought the lady was going to keep my ID or something!! She kept looking at it, then looking at me, then back at my ID, then back at me and then finally she says "so.. this is a New South Wales licence.." (I just moved states from NSW to Victoria)  I just replied back with "yep!" And she just kept staring at the ID and at me. I just said "ok, well can I have my ID back now?" And all she said was "hmmm..." and then slowly handed it back to me!! I think she thought it was fake or stolen or something. It was very odd lol. 

Ha ha! I know I'm older but I'm very grateful I'm not like Colleen and looking way older than my age! That's so funny about your id, I've definitely had a similar situation happen where I felt like I was being interrogated or that someone was speculating that my id was fake, it's so awkward!

The saddest part is when everyone always thought you were younger than you are - and then one day, people start guessing right. Whomp whomp whomp. LOL!

Coming here to vent/complain at work.
So, without fail, all three morning cashiers are scheduled to get off at 2 pm, which wouldn't be a problem if work scheduled afternoon cashiers to come in at 2 pm as well. Buuuut, they never do. Like, ever. So, one of the morning cashiers usually ends up staying until 3 pm and it's more often than not me...I really like my coworkers, don't get me wrong, but I would really appreciate it if they didn't run for the door when management asks someone to stay late (okay, they don't literally do that, but still. You get my point.) It just gets tiring, y'know?
Top that with the fact that, despite only being asked to stay until 3 pm, I didn't get off until almost 4 pm and the fact that I was scheduled to leave at 10 am yesterday and didn't get off until 2 pm because management fucked up and scheduled both morning cashiers to leave at 10 am, and I'm just really exhausted and fed up. Management needs to get their shit together and learn how to schedule people in a way that actually works well.
(Also, I apologize for my language )

Jul 19, 2017 11:52:21 GMT 10 coffeechick12 said:

Coming here to vent/complain at work.
So, without fail, all three morning cashiers are scheduled to get off at 2 pm, which wouldn't be a problem if work scheduled afternoon cashiers to come in at 2 pm as well. Buuuut, they never do. Like, ever. So, one of the morning cashiers usually ends up staying until 3 pm and it's more often than not me...I really like my coworkers, don't get me wrong, but I would really appreciate it if they didn't run for the door when management asks someone to stay late (okay, they don't literally do that, but still. You get my point.) It just gets tiring, y'know?
Top that with the fact that, despite only being asked to stay until 3 pm, I didn't get off until almost 4 pm and the fact that I was scheduled to leave at 10 am yesterday and didn't get off until 2 pm because management fucked up and scheduled both morning cashiers to leave at 10 am, and I'm just really exhausted and fed up. Management needs to get their shit together and learn how to schedule people in a way that actually works well.
(Also, I apologize for my language )

I used to have this problem too. Work would always get me to work overtime because nobody else said yes, and because I did once it was always on me. You just have to stick to your guns and say no. Call someone else, organise it earlier, unless they are paying you to be on call, you shouldn't have to pick up the slack for their fuck ups unless you want to.

Jul 19, 2017 12:18:27 GMT 10 Tuskvegas said:

Jul 19, 2017 11:52:21 GMT 10 coffeechick12 said:

Coming here to vent/complain at work.
So, without fail, all three morning cashiers are scheduled to get off at 2 pm, which wouldn't be a problem if work scheduled afternoon cashiers to come in at 2 pm as well. Buuuut, they never do. Like, ever. So, one of the morning cashiers usually ends up staying until 3 pm and it's more often than not me...I really like my coworkers, don't get me wrong, but I would really appreciate it if they didn't run for the door when management asks someone to stay late (okay, they don't literally do that, but still. You get my point.) It just gets tiring, y'know?
Top that with the fact that, despite only being asked to stay until 3 pm, I didn't get off until almost 4 pm and the fact that I was scheduled to leave at 10 am yesterday and didn't get off until 2 pm because management fucked up and scheduled both morning cashiers to leave at 10 am, and I'm just really exhausted and fed up. Management needs to get their shit together and learn how to schedule people in a way that actually works well.
(Also, I apologize for my language )

I used to have this problem too. Work would always get me to work overtime because nobody else said yes, and because I did once it was always on me. You just have to stick to your guns and say no. Call someone else, organise it earlier, unless they are paying you to be on call, you shouldn't have to pick up the slack for their fuck ups unless you want to.

You're absolutely right honestly. It's not my fault management apparently can't properly schedule to save their lives and it's not my job to clean up their mess (granted, I don't think they care how crappy they are for making employees stay late consistently.) I'm really bad at saying no, but I'm already scheduled for 40 hours this coming week (our work week goes from wednesday to tuesday of the following week) and they're super stingy with overtime pay so I'm hoping that deters them from keeping me late. I guess we'll see though. 

Jul 19, 2017 11:52:21 GMT 10 coffeechick12 said:

Coming here to vent/complain at work.
So, without fail, all three morning cashiers are scheduled to get off at 2 pm, which wouldn't be a problem if work scheduled afternoon cashiers to come in at 2 pm as well. Buuuut, they never do. Like, ever. So, one of the morning cashiers usually ends up staying until 3 pm and it's more often than not me...I really like my coworkers, don't get me wrong, but I would really appreciate it if they didn't run for the door when management asks someone to stay late (okay, they don't literally do that, but still. You get my point.) It just gets tiring, y'know?
Top that with the fact that, despite only being asked to stay until 3 pm, I didn't get off until almost 4 pm and the fact that I was scheduled to leave at 10 am yesterday and didn't get off until 2 pm because management fucked up and scheduled both morning cashiers to leave at 10 am, and I'm just really exhausted and fed up. Management needs to get their shit together and learn how to schedule people in a way that actually works well.
(Also, I apologize for my language )

lol. I'm not sure if you're at liberty to say, coffeechick, but do you work at Panera? I'm laughing because you are describing my life like, 3 years ago. Even if you don't, I know your pain!

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

Jul 22, 2017 14:47:24 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

You're not being a whiny brat. It's completely fair and normal to feel left out (and maybe even a little resentful). I'm sorry this is happening. I relate so very much. It sucks.

Thank you bixie. Resentful is definitely in those emotions. I'm trying to talk myself out of these feelings but it's hard.

That happened to me, but the opposite. All my friends had babies at the same time and started doing all the mommy things together. I love them, but it's ok cause I am a major homebody anyway lol

Jul 22, 2017 14:47:24 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

Do you think maybe you've changed a little since having a baby too? if you're in your mid twenties, you guys might suddenly have completely different priorities and outlooks on life and they might not know how to handle this more adult version of you? I remember when my pals had kids there was a good few months where I felt a little exhausted trying to come up with compliments for baby photos, hearing baby horror stories etc. I still stuck by them so i guess i'm a bad example

Maybe you need to reach out and have a proper chat with the ones you are closest to. If they are good friends they'll hear what you have to say and put more effort in. If not it might be time to find some people willing to move through life with you.

Jul 22, 2017 15:38:32 GMT 10 trubbled said:

That happened to me, but the opposite. All my friends had babies at the same time and started doing all the mommy things together. I love them, but it's ok cause I am a major homebody anyway lol

oh man I can see how that would be annoying as well. (Not annoying but I can't think of the word and you get my point)

Jul 22, 2017 15:46:26 GMT 10 Tuskvegas said:

Jul 22, 2017 14:47:24 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

This is going to sound really pathetic but here goes

I have this really tight knit group of friends. I was always the available one and the one that was never in a relationship or tied down. I started dating my now husband and got engaged, married and then pregnant in a very short amount of time (when you know you know kind of cliche). Ever since then my friend group doesn't really include me in much, and I get it, I have a 4 month old and am in my mid-twenties. Most people my age are going out and still having flings. There are 5 of us total (2 guys and 3 females). I mention this because all of the females are married and one of the guys is in a serious relationship. So I guess part of me just thought we were all headed in the same place but now that I have my son, I'm constantly ignored and not let in on group outings. I'd understand more if these were just at night, but like today they all went to lunch together and didn't ask me. I feel like I'm being replaced by this other person who's been showing up more. Also my birthday was a few weeks ago and I told them I wanted to go to dinner later that week and still, nothing.

TL;DR: I'm being a whiny brat because I need to just make friends with people in a similar situation to myself and not rely on old friends.

Do you think maybe you've changed a little since having a baby too? if you're in your mid twenties, you guys might suddenly have completely different priorities and outlooks on life and they might not know how to handle this more adult version of you? I remember when my pals had kids there was a good few months where I felt a little exhausted trying to come up with compliments for baby photos, hearing baby horror stories etc. I still stuck by them so i guess i'm a bad example

Maybe you need to reach out and have a proper chat with the ones you are closest to. If they are good friends they'll hear what you have to say and put more effort in. If not it might be time to find some people willing to move through life with you.

I am positive I've changed. I think change is good and it would've been a little weird to have them as priority #1 once I had my husband and son. I guess I don't expect to be their #1 anymore either but I don't even feel like I rank at all. I try not to be the mom that's like omg here's yet another photo of my baby doing the exact same thing but I'm sure it can still be exhausting.

I guess I've tried reaching out but maybe it's just not enough. I know the other two females are planning on having kids in the next few years. Maybe it'll just be this way until then.

Jul 22, 2017 16:05:48 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

Jul 22, 2017 15:46:26 GMT 10 Tuskvegas said:

Do you think maybe you've changed a little since having a baby too? if you're in your mid twenties, you guys might suddenly have completely different priorities and outlooks on life and they might not know how to handle this more adult version of you? I remember when my pals had kids there was a good few months where I felt a little exhausted trying to come up with compliments for baby photos, hearing baby horror stories etc. I still stuck by them so i guess i'm a bad example

Maybe you need to reach out and have a proper chat with the ones you are closest to. If they are good friends they'll hear what you have to say and put more effort in. If not it might be time to find some people willing to move through life with you.

I am positive I've changed. I think change is good and it would've been a little weird to have them as priority #1 once I had my husband and son. I guess I don't expect to be their #1 anymore either but I don't even feel like I rank at all. I try not to be the mom that's like omg here's yet another photo of my baby doing the exact same thing but I'm sure it can still be exhausting.

I guess I've tried reaching out but maybe it's just not enough. I know the other two females are planning on having kids in the next few years. Maybe it'll just be this way until then.

I have a long term friend- we always talked about how we would be friends forever and our kids would be friends. She got married young and we grew apart. She's had a couple of marriages now and a kid with one of them. Her child is 4 years older than my eldest. So we've never made it to that place we imagined. Our kids are too far apart to be friends. And while we still talk occasionally we rarely hang out.
I think it's pretty rare for friend groups to carry on once people start to marry and have families.
I think feeling left out is normal.

Jul 23, 2017 4:29:36 GMT 10 anastasia said:

Jul 22, 2017 16:05:48 GMT 10 gossipgranny said:

I am positive I've changed. I think change is good and it would've been a little weird to have them as priority #1 once I had my husband and son. I guess I don't expect to be their #1 anymore either but I don't even feel like I rank at all. I try not to be the mom that's like omg here's yet another photo of my baby doing the exact same thing but I'm sure it can still be exhausting.

I guess I've tried reaching out but maybe it's just not enough. I know the other two females are planning on having kids in the next few years. Maybe it'll just be this way until then.

I have a long term friend- we always talked about how we would be friends forever and our kids would be friends. She got married young and we grew apart. She's had a couple of marriages now and a kid with one of them. Her child is 4 years older than my eldest. So we've never made it to that place we imagined. Our kids are too far apart to be friends. And while we still talk occasionally we rarely hang out.
I think it's pretty rare for friend groups to carry on once people start to marry and have families.
I think feeling left out is normal.

thanks for this. I guess I just have to keep reminding myself it's normal.

Now where to find friends with kids 🤔

I'm going to apologise in advance if this is a sensitive topic for anyone and for whinging in general lol, but I need to get this off my chest..
A couple of months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were super excited and happy about it but unfortunately, one day I started to bleed. I had an ultrasound the following day and they confirmed that I had had a miscarriage. We were upset, but accepted that it just wasn't meant to be and said we will try again in a few months.
So it's been a couple of months and we decided we would try again. A couple of days before the due date of my period, I decided to take a pregnancy test, because I just couldn't handle not knowing. The test was negative, so I was like ok, that's fine, at least I know. Due date for period comes and goes and still nothing. Four days late, I took another test. Still negative. I am now 7 days late and still nothing. Not even any signs of my period. No cramps, no breast tenderness. Nothing. I am usually always on time, and my periods have been normal since my miscarriage so I don't know what's going on. It is just so frustrating and my husband doesn't get why I'm frustrated. He just keeps saying that it'll happen eventually and that there is no point being upset.
Ughhhhh. I don't know guys. It's just playing on my mind.

Jul 25, 2017 12:49:57 GMT 10 kiki said:

I'm going to apologise in advance if this is a sensitive topic for anyone and for whinging in general lol, but I need to get this off my chest..
A couple of months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were super excited and happy about it but unfortunately, one day I started to bleed. I had an ultrasound the following day and they confirmed that I had had a miscarriage. We were upset, but accepted that it just wasn't meant to be and said we will try again in a few months.
So it's been a couple of months and we decided we would try again. A couple of days before the due date of my period, I decided to take a pregnancy test, because I just couldn't handle not knowing. The test was negative, so I was like ok, that's fine, at least I know. Due date for period comes and goes and still nothing. Four days late, I took another test. Still negative. I am now 7 days late and still nothing. Not even any signs of my period. No cramps, no breast tenderness. Nothing. I am usually always on time, and my periods have been normal since my miscarriage so I don't know what's going on. It is just so frustrating and my husband doesn't get why I'm frustrated. He just keeps saying that it'll happen eventually and that there is no point being upset.
Ughhhhh. I don't know guys. It's just playing on my mind.

I'm sorry this is happened to you. I was pregnant with twins and lost one. It happened in like my first or second month, and my other daughter was born just fine. As for you being late,but not getting a period, I would go to the Doctor tomorrow, or as soon as you can. Tell the doc what's going on and they can do blood work if another test turns out negative. Try to be patient with your husband, as men can be kinda dumb sometimes. I've been with mine since '89 and sometimes he does things and I'm dumbfounded.